How to Talk to Your GP
Talking to a GP can feel intimidating, especially if you grew up having to handle things on your own or had mixed experiences with professionals. You might worry about being judged, not being taken seriously, or forgetting everything the moment you sit down.
Here is the good news:
GPs are there to help!
You do not need perfect words, you just need enough to get the support you deserve.
This guide offers simple, supportive tips to help you feel more prepared and confident when speaking to your GP.
Writing a few things down beforehand
You do not need a script. A few notes are enough.
Jot down your main symptoms, how long they have been happening, anything that makes them better or worse, and how they affect your daily life. You can read from your notes during the appointment if that helps. GPs are very used to this.
Starting with a simple sentence
If your mind goes blank, try starting with something like:
“I am here because something has been worrying me.”
“I am struggling with…”
“I need help with…”
Once you start, your GP will guide you with questions.
Being honest, even if it feels uncomfortable
You are not being dramatic or wasting anyone’s time.
Being honest about symptoms, mood, sleep, stress, substances, medication, or your living situation helps your GP support you properly. You will not shock them. They have heard it all before.
Explaining how it affects your day to day life
GPs understand things best when they know the impact.
You might say:
“It is hard to get up for work.”
“I cannot concentrate.”
“I feel exhausted all the time.”
“My mood is affecting my relationships.”
“I am not eating or sleeping properly.”
This helps them decide what kind of support is needed.
Extra support (open if helpful)
Click on the options below for extra guidance and support when talking to your GP:
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If talking in the moment feels overwhelming, you are allowed to bring a friend, your PA or support worker, written notes, or messages you have written about how you feel.
You never have to manage appointments alone.
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You can ask:
“Can you explain that again?”
“What does that mean for me?”
“What happens next?”
“When should I come back?”
Clear next steps help you feel more in control.
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Crying in a GP appointment is normal. You are not being judged. Take your time.
If you remember something at the end, you can say, “There is one more thing I wanted to mention.”
GPs expect this.
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You are allowed to book with a different GP, ask for a longer appointment, or request a male or female GP if that helps you feel safer.
You deserve to feel respected.
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Using the NHS App can help you book appointments, request repeat prescriptions, view test results, and manage your care in one place.
If appointments make you anxious, you can tell your GP. They can slow things down, explain more clearly, allow extra time, or offer phone appointments where appropriate.
Your communication needs are valid.
Reflective moment
If talking to a GP feels scary, you are not alone. Many care experienced young people grew up with health professionals feeling distant, rushed, or unpredictable. It makes sense if that still affects you now.
You deserve healthcare that listens.
You deserve to be taken seriously.
…And you deserve to ask questions without shame.
Closing thoughts
Talking to your GP is a skill, not something you are expected to magically know. It gets easier with time. You can prepare in your own way, bring support, and speak honestly.
Your GP’s job is to help you, not judge you; You deserve care that feels safe, respectful, and clear.